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Weekend Roundup, October 20, 2017: Rottweiler Edition

10.20.2017 by Nicole Kristin Twedt //

Photo by Donna on Unsplash.  The photo doesn’t have a thing to do with Rottweilers, but pumpkins are prettier.

Here’s a riddle with a twist, a variation on the old “Why did the chicken cross the road?” standby.  The joke goes like this:

Q: Why did the Havanese cross the road?

A: To escape a deathtrap in the form of an evil Rottweiler.

Ha ha ha!

Except no one’s laughing.

Yep, Chloe and I had a little run-in with a Rottweiler.  It happened two days ago; and it’s the backstory to why Chloe now runs in the opposite direction when the time comes each morning for our walk.  Not only does my little dog run the other way,* she actually hides behind the cream and white throw pillow on the oversized chair in the living room.  Chloe thankfully wasn’t hurt, except for her pride. The moral of the story? I’m once again bribing my little dog with a baggie of carrots to celebrate a job well done, or a walk well done in her case.  Except now I feel like a doggy mama failure because everyone knows not to bribe with food. Goodness.  Oh, there’s another (more important) take-away to our walk gone terribly wrong: Always cross the road, or jump off the sidewalk at the very least, when you see a Rottweiler coming your way.

I learned something else from the episode with the evil Rottweiler:  Sometimes the bravest thing to do with anxiety is to keep on walking.  I’m sure Chloe would’ve rather returned to her perch on the oversize living room chair (I think it was called a chair-and-a-half in the late-90s, my glory years.) But it wouldn’t have helped her in the long run.  On the other hand, maybe it is better to take a break from whatever’s causing anxiety. No one should be bombarded by a stressor, especially when the stressor comes in the form of a Rottweiler. You better believe I carried Chloe for a few minutes after our encounter with death; I don’t mind saying so. I don’t t even care how pathetic we looked.  Did I mention it was raining? Of course it was raining: Seattle.

Moving on.

But not really.  The first essay is from Christie Thomas; and it’s kinda-sorta (but not really) about anxiety, childhood anxiety.  The way Christie talks about dropping her son off at kindergarten is basically a snapshot of what it was like to drop Steven off at the church nursery all those years ago. Except Steven had a bloody forehead from hitting his head in protest on the cement floor thinly covered with carpet. Back to Christie: The meat of her essay is about blessing children, something this mama of faith never thought about.  Sure I pray for my kids, like constantly.  But I never thought of blessing them. Here’s what Christie had to say.

It’s probably too late to mention it, but if your’e new around here, the “Weekend Roundup” is what happens when I showcase the work of fellow Hope*Writers.  Basically, it’s a chance for you to get to know my writer friends.

Just about everything I’ve ever read by Dorina Lazo Gilmore has caused my head to bob up and down in agreement.  This week, Dorina wrote about grief, and how it will sneak up on you if you don’t deal with it, and how even grief in the form of natural disasters and national tragedies remind us of the importance of lament.  Amen sister.  You can find Dorina’s essay, Making Space For Lament When National Tragedy Strikes, here.

I’m going to spice things up a bit. The next Hope*Writer I’m going to introduce is Libby John.  Libby’s album, Reveal The Gold, debuts today. You can head over to iTunes to listen to a sample or download for your enjoyment. You can also find Libby’s work on Google Play but I don’t know how Google Play works.

It’s strange for me to feature an album cover instead of book cover, but it’s a welcome change.  Consider the recommendation an early Christmas present.

Speaking of Christmas…well not exactly.  Jody Collins wrote a book about simplifying Christmas, and living the season well.  But that’s not where I’m headed.  How’s that for an awkward transition? Anyway, my author-friend wrote a wonderful essay on her blog; I’d like to share it with you.  Go ahead, read Jody’s blog post; and then come back and fill in the blanks.  I’ll wait for you.

I do______________

I don’t ____________

I’ll start.  I do enjoy working in my children’s classrooms, in fact I even love volunteering at our neighborhood school; I do walk regularly (especially when it’s not raining and I can wear my Birkenstocks); I really do love intimate gatherings with the dearest of friends; I do cook gluten-free and dairy-free meals for my family, mostly from scratch.

I don’t EVER volunteer to be a room parent.  In fact, it’s my life-goal to NEVER be a room parent. Emily’s in fifth grade and I’ve never had to do it.  I’d say I’m doing well for myself.  The very thought of being a room parent sends me into panic mode quicker than you can say, well, room parent.  And I’ve never signed up to be the classroom art docent.  Another thing: I don’t run anymore.  My feet hate me.  And I hate athletic shoes of any kind. I DON’T do large parties; I definitely don’t make a big fuss about kid birthday parties, the smaller, the better in my book.  My children disagree.  Lastly, I don’t bake.  I’m going to throw one more “don’t” out there because I’m having too much fun: Years ago, I banned gluten and dairy from our home, but I will forever and ever be sugar’s Number 1 Fan, especially when sugar comes in the form of Sour Patch Kids. Speaking of which, I blame Sour Patch Kids for landing me in Dr. Hussey’s office, a few weeks back, for a filling.

That’s all I have to share in this week’s roundup.  I’m going to be late for book club if I don’t get this published soon. (Edited to add: I was late for book club.) We’re discussing A Gentleman in Moscow.  At the moment, the name of the author escapes me; but I highly recommend it.  Personally, I loved listening along to A Gentleman in Moscow on Audible since there were so many Russian names for me to butcher. What have you been reading lately?

N.

*As it turns out, the joke’s on me.  Chloe still loves her walks.  She’s afraid of her new red dog jacket.

Categories // Anxiety, Weekend Roundups

Book Review: Living the Season Well — Reclaiming Christmas

10.18.2017 by Nicole Kristin Twedt //

Today marks the third Sunday of Advent.  The Tiniest Tiny is on the verge of losing her first tooth; I’m feeling all the feels.  Before long, a dairy-free version of  Alice Currah’s “Spicy Sausage Kale Bean Soup” is reheated on the stovetop.  Leftover Thai food is thrown into the microwave; and two-thirds of our children refuse to eat it.  Eventually, our family gathers around the oak farm table in the dining room to light the Joy Candle.  As the flame of the pink candle flickers and comes to life, we set our eyes on whatever is lovely and good, to the dawn of about to get better.  This is the song of old, the story rising in me.

The above reflection was part of last year’s Christmas letter.  I didn’t mention that the kids were fighting to the death over whose turn it was to blow out the candles; the dog was barking; and each time I snuck a glance at my phone to refer to the Advent reading I’d found online, my husband Greg, always the kid at heart, tried to blow out the candle that was supposed to represent joy.

My family wasn’t the only problem.  Panic seemed to creep into my heart as soon as Costco rolled out their holiday decorations.  Anxiety was at its peak by Black Friday. For the love of trying to find that special treasure for each family member, extended family member, teacher, school specialist and even the milkman.  By the time I got to the milkman, I’m afraid the “special something” came from my neighborhood Starbucks in the form of a $10 gift card.  I really wasn’t a Grinch.  I really did love Christmas.  I was just overwhelmed by the increasing number of obligations, and expenses, associated with the season.

Enter Jody Collins and her new book, Living the Season Well — Reclaiming Christmas. I met the author at a Seattle-based writing group last winter.  Jody sat on a red couch by the window and told us, enthusiastically, about an idea she had for a book, an idea she believes God gave her to help parents (and grandparents) appreciate the connection between adapting, or adopting, the liturgies of the church year by presenting simple ways for families to approach the holidays without feeling burdened by it.

Living the Season Well is for evangelical and liturgical families alike.  My faith background is Presbyterian-turned-Nondenominational-turned-Assemblies-of-God; which meant I was basically confused about the church calendar and all things liturgy.  I have precious memories of the lighting of the Advent candles at the church of my childhood, complete with wooden pews and stained glass windows. As an adult, it’s easy for me to get behind all of the longing and anticipation associated with Advent. But I had questions about the candle business.  I knew about the little pink Joy Candle, but only because I Googled it.  I loved learning from the book about the sacred traditions of the church in ways that work for modern families. I found the explanation of Advent particularly helpful.

I appreciate the tone of Living the Season Well.  Jody is never bossy or condescending. Her book urged me to start small and start now.  Since I’m a budget-conscious mama, I love that many of Jody’s ideas and suggestions to incorporate the timeless church traditions are inexpensive, and often free.

I learned that it’s not about cramming more of Christmas on or around December 25.  This was one of my favorite take-aways from the book. You see, I’m deeply introspective.  My heart requires a great deal of time to ponder and reflect upon the way God chose to show his love for me through the miracle of his son’s birth.  I’m not ready to take down the tree just because Christmas has come and gone. I’m still celebrating.  What a relief to have permission to stretch the season out and enjoy the sacred beauty of it all.

As mentioned previously, I’m prone to anxiety.  It doesn’t take much for me to feel overwhelmed by the increasing number of obligations and expenses associated with the beloved holiday.  Can you relate?  Friend, it doesn’t have to be this way.  Christmas doesn’t have to be a major source of stress and anxiety. There’s a plethora of useful information available in Jody’s book to help you and your family simplify Christmas and live the season well.

As part of the launch team for Living the Season Well, I received a digital copy of the book in exchange for my honest review.  Truth be told, I loved Jody’s book so much that I ordered a paperback for myself.  I think you’ll like it, too. I encourage you to click on one of the following links to order your own copy of Living the Season Well — Reclaiming Christmas by Jody Collins.  You’ll thank me later.

Living the Season Well — Reclaiming Christmas by Jody Collins on Amazon.

Living the Season Well — Reclaiming Christmas by Jody Collins at Barnes & Noble.

 

Categories // Anxiety, Book Reviews, Family Tags // Advent, Books, Christmas, Jody Collins, Liturgy

Weekend Roundup, October 13, 2017: Beige Sweater From Costco Edition

10.13.2017 by Nicole Kristin Twedt //

Photo by Johannes Hofmann on Unsplash

You know the above picture, the one of the lady in the beige sweater, holding the wee pumpkin? It’s not me, but could be. I have the same sweater; it’s from Costco a few winters back.  And the pumpkins in the background?  It reminds me of the pumpkin display in front of Central Market.  I was there today.  I dashed in for a moment, between walking the dog and fetching the Twedtlings from school, to hunt down sweet rice flour and to replenish my supply of Organic Valley Vanilla Soy Creamer, which is harder to find than you’d think.  So is the sweet rice flour.  I need it for tomorrow night’s dairy and gluten-free Fettuccine Alfredo, which sounds disgusting but isn’t.  Greg will eat it, as long as I remember to add grilled chicken.  A meal isn’t a meal without some kind of protein in the form of meat or poultry, according to my husband.

Emily, my oldest, a few days later. We went back to get a Woodwick candle in “Apple Basket,” since Em’s love language happens to be scented candles.

So, let’s get this party started.  It’s time for the Weekend Roundup.  If you’re new around here, the Weekend Roundup is what happens when I showcase the work of fellow Hope*Writers.  Basically, it’s a chance for you to get to know my writer friends.

Wait! Before I dive  into the weekend roundup, I have BIG NEWS to share about my little brown-eyed girl.  I’m feeling all the feels right now because my baby girl lost her two front teeth this week, which makes for three teeth in one week! I didn’t think it was possible, but suddenly my little pumpkin is even more precious.  In fact, she’s the cutest little jack o’ lantern you ever did see.  There’s so much more I could say about this week; such a wonderful week it was.  I’m afraid if I get started I’ll never go to bed tonight.  Since fall is like January to teachers everywhere (even former teachers like me), I came up with the idea to make a New Year’s Resolution: October Style.  And it has everything to do with getting  a little (OK a lot) more sleep than I’ve been getting.

All I want for Halloween is my two front teeth!

Some of my online writer friends happen to be friends in real life.  Enter Emily Allen.  In The Hidden Gifts of Humility, Emily ponders being “just a mom.” You can read her lovely reflection here.  Indeed, I could relate to Emily’s younger self’s need for validation, though I’m afraid the “older” version of myself still struggles with this one.  The essay also reminds me of the time I met a group of friends for a dinner party in our college town of Bellingham.  I was thirty years-old and pregnant with our second.  Besides my stint as a teacher, all I ever wanted was to be a mom.  Yet, all of the sudden I was overcome with shame because I had chosen to get married and start a family instead of going on to grad school, like the rest of my friends in that particular circle.

I don’t even know how to introduce this next one, except to say you should read it.   I loved Kristin Vanderlip’s essay, What You Need to Know About Your Tears.  It’s right here.  It reminds me of the Bottles of Tears ministry, which I’m a big fan of.

This is the third time in a row that I’ve linked to Caroline Saunders.  This week Caroline wrote the second part of a three part series about her husband, who happens to look like Brad Pitt and some college football player I can’t remember because I try not to waste brain space on sports, particularly football.  I love Caroline’s voice and how she reminds us that pastors are people too.  Here’ you go, it’s right here.

I interrupt this Weekend Roundup to share some exciting news, as exciting as it gets around here: Chloe and I have now been on five, yes five, walks around the neighborhood without her bag of carrots.  Yep, my little doggy is an overcomer.   There’s hope for us all!  Since I’m not including an essay about anxiety this week, I thought I’d give you an update on anxiety on the home front.  Yep, my little dog Chloe has anxiety.  (Steven and I are working through it too).  You can read more of our story in the ANXIETY section of the blog.  Oh, speaking of anxiety, yesterday I talked briefly to my MOPS group about overcoming fear/living with anxiety.  The talk was brief, as in under three minutes, and it was more for me than anyone else since I can only really talk or write about what God’s doing in my own life.  By the way, after I gave my mini-talk the real speaker turned out to be Jenny Howell, another Hope*Writer/Glory Writer.  The world keeps getting smaller!

Here’s another favorite: Jill E. McCormick nailed it in Why You Feel Awkward When People Ask What You Do?   Here ya go. “When I’m asked what I do, I say it as quickly as possible. Then, I blush, change the subject and hope you drop it. This is the response from a woman who loves what she gets to do—but why? Why do we feel uncomfortable sharing about what we do?” And all the bloggers writers said AMEN.

I love everything Dorina writes, but this one had me at the title: Marathon Lessons: How to Persevere When Your Race Isn’t Turning Out How You Expected.  Not how I expected.  Yep, that about sums up life (in the best way possible).  Obviously, I’m not a marathon runner, or even a regular runner, but I could relate to Dorina’s essay on so many levels.  She writes about grief, pressing on, Jesus, community and so much more.  Look no further, the essay’s here.

It’s about 10:40, which means bedtime.  My goal for tonight was bed by 10:30.  Close enough, right?  I’m really going to go to bed this time.  Good night and have a wonderful weekend.  I hope you have yourself a fabulously lazy weekend with lots of coffee involved. We may find our way to a pumpkin patch tomorrow.  It’s our fall tradition.  What are your plans?

N.

P.S. It’s Saturday now.  We are not at the pumpkin patch.  I remembered that my moody floral boots were thrown out at the end of our rainy season because of a hole in the sole of the boot. (Yes, I live in Seattle and it rains pretty much all the time.  But this year was different.)  I’m not one to visit the pumpkin patch without proper (and cute) footwear.  Anyway, we’re toying with the idea of trekking over to the Apple store to get my 38th year birthday present (I’m now 39).  When I started my blog on my 38th birthday, Greg surprised me with the idea of getting a new laptop.  Both of us go into decision making overload whenever decisions have to be made so it never happened.  And laptops are expensive.   We’re currently lounging in our jammies as one should on a Saturday morning, except that it’s now afternoon, which brings me back to you.  In all of my lounging and Facebooking and coffee-drinking, I came across a blog post from another one of my online writer friends.  Meet Cattie (pronounced Katie).  Here’s what she has to say about waiting for God’s healing. Amen and Amen. You can read Cattie’s post here.  By the way, it’s all part of a 31-day writing challenge.  I plan on hanging around.  I need more of Cattie in my life!

Categories // Uncategorized, Weekend Roundups Tags // Bottle of Tears, Hope*Writers

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